Let's Get Real.

Yesterday I realized something.. well.. I think I realized this a long time ago but it was confirmed yesterday....again.. for the thousandth time...

Comparison IS the thief of Joy..

AND

Facebook is a Garden of Comparison.

I have a wonderful life. I have an amazing house, a new car, two adorable amazing healthy kids, a husband who is the end all be all best part of me, he's my best friend, the love of my life and my far better half. I have everything I want in life.. and yet.. being human.. I always crave more.

Spending too much time on sites like facebook and instagram gives me a complex. I find myself living vicariously through other people including strangers and eventually feeling bad for myself feeling like I am lacking, and the Joy that I should have is robbed from me.

My friend Lara shared this article with me yesterday: Can Less Time on Facebook Increase Your Happiness?

 The answer is YES. And it states very clearly why.... (give it a read it's short and informative).. my favorite point of it was this:

"One of the easiest ways to feel unhappy is to compare ourselves unfavorably with others. When we’re on Facebook, we’re susceptible to undue influence of our “friends’” glossy representations of themselves. Even when we know consciously that Facebook profiles are often nothing more than social billboards, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing our real lives with others’ advertisements of themselves.

“Looking at happy pictures of others on Facebook gives people an impression that others are always happy and having good lives.” – Hui-Tzu Grace Chou.........

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Facebook is "like being in a play. You make a character," – from Alone Together

When you feel unhappy while browsing Facebook, remember that many, if not most of your “friends’” profiles are forms of personal advertisements. Most people tend to post what’s positive (or dramatic) in their lives. It’s what they want you to see, rather than how their lives really are."

conviction conviction conviction.. amiright?

I am constantly putting on a facade. I want the world to think my proverbial ducks are in a row, that I am happy and attractive all the time and everything is hunky dory. I want to be the object of envy I want people to want to be me, to have what I have, to think I am the Mary Freaking Poppins of the world.. practically perfect in every way...ive gotten lost in the obsession of defining my value or worth based on other people's perception of me. 

AND YOU DO THIS TOO.

Don't lie.

SO let's Get Real. 

My life is a "beautiful Mess"  Here is my view right now:

Most the day I am dealing with a fussy baby that needs to be held:

 Most the time I am dealing with him, he is attached to my breast:

I don't know how to wear make up, I shower maybe twice a week, I am always picking up messes, cooking dinners, grocery shopping. I am covered in spit up or pee most the time. I suffer from depression I am happy go lucky maybe 45% of the time the rest I am just "getting by" Most of my clothes are hand me downs or from a thrift store and my life is less than what would be considered "socially glamorous".  I dont have tons of money, or travel the world, im not a super model, im average in every way. I think we all need to take the step to be honest with who and what we actually are. ALL humans. Beautifully Broken, ALONE together... So let's take a step back, view the truth, and except our lives for what they are... and since it is NOVEMBER... Be grateful for them...

Blessings lovely people. Until Next time. Erin.